Post by carol on Jan 6, 2009 13:10:47 GMT -5
Hi, I'm Carol. Let me tell you a little about myself and my involvement with RAD.
I am a mother of four, stepmother of one, ranging from age 29 to 43. Amongst these children and their spouses, I have 5 grandchildren, 4 boys, 1 girl, 10 months to 16 years.
Nothing in my parenting experience could possibly have prepared me for the little adopted boy, who came to one of our children with RAD and a few other diagnosis.
How do you justify this cruel blow to a family that wants only to love and to give and to cherish their chosen child. What a shocker for us all. One minute he is the most adorable child and the next he is pushing away with all he can muster.
We are primarily the only respite and caregivers outside of the family home.
For many reasons, other family members are not able to contribute as much due to distance, age and ability, and not being able to understand what works best for this child. After much disappointment and much success, we have reached a reasonable balance in being able to offer the parents a break in order to regroup.
It has been difficult to develop a working relationship between respite and grandparenting.
We have come to love this little person to the ends of the earth and there is nothing we will not do to protect and nurture this family unit.
I really look forward to reading how other grandparents have been able to keep a sane balance and understand that all children and all grandchildren cannot always be treated the same, but are all loved equally.
I am a mother of four, stepmother of one, ranging from age 29 to 43. Amongst these children and their spouses, I have 5 grandchildren, 4 boys, 1 girl, 10 months to 16 years.
Nothing in my parenting experience could possibly have prepared me for the little adopted boy, who came to one of our children with RAD and a few other diagnosis.
How do you justify this cruel blow to a family that wants only to love and to give and to cherish their chosen child. What a shocker for us all. One minute he is the most adorable child and the next he is pushing away with all he can muster.
We are primarily the only respite and caregivers outside of the family home.
For many reasons, other family members are not able to contribute as much due to distance, age and ability, and not being able to understand what works best for this child. After much disappointment and much success, we have reached a reasonable balance in being able to offer the parents a break in order to regroup.
It has been difficult to develop a working relationship between respite and grandparenting.
We have come to love this little person to the ends of the earth and there is nothing we will not do to protect and nurture this family unit.
I really look forward to reading how other grandparents have been able to keep a sane balance and understand that all children and all grandchildren cannot always be treated the same, but are all loved equally.